would you like to talk about it.
The title of this post is something that I have always been able to do. It's something I've always wanted to do.
It's crazy how those few words can convey so much and yet come across as nothing at all.
Recently, a friend and I kinda got into a small little scuffle. Yet, it was strange that I found myself telling that friend that its true friends who confront each other.
Then I realized as I was saying it that it's completely true.
Friends, real friends, actually can get in your face and tell you your wrong, or right, or stupid, or good looking, or any number of things that you would normally be upset about.
People, myself included, spend so much time always trying to be right. Yet, most often we are wrong in some way.
Today, was incredibly boring. Work was the same old. I work with phone systems and am In charge of managing our telecommunications. I've always thought of myself as a good communicator and yet I find myself realizing that everyone communicates differently.
Man that's annoying. My Fiance is going to school for communication, and at fist I thought it was funny and teased her a little. Yet, now I see how important the art of effective communication can be when you take away all the rules you have learned.
In my job I work with people from all over the world, and trying to have conversations with them is someone difficult because of the nature of language. Some things are universal, like tone of voice.
Raised voice often means negativity. However, most of the people I work with have no real concept of personal space. They will reach into your pocket and grab something for you, or they will stand right next to you, or hold your arm in a way that would by American standards be inapropriate.
If all your life you grew up and thought that the word "apple" meant "F*** Off." Then how would you view a sign that said "Apples 50 cents" or what would you think in a grocery store.
Then, we come full circle back to the point. Being able to communicate on a level of understanding is so incredibly hard when the people you communicate with don't speak the same language.
I spent a better portion of today trying to understand how I had upset someone and offended them. After I learned, I felt terrible.
Lets just say that in Albanian, "Help Me Push My Car." Does not mean the same thing in English as it does in Albanian.
For those of you who don't understand. Apple.
-steve
It's crazy how those few words can convey so much and yet come across as nothing at all.
Recently, a friend and I kinda got into a small little scuffle. Yet, it was strange that I found myself telling that friend that its true friends who confront each other.
Then I realized as I was saying it that it's completely true.
Friends, real friends, actually can get in your face and tell you your wrong, or right, or stupid, or good looking, or any number of things that you would normally be upset about.
People, myself included, spend so much time always trying to be right. Yet, most often we are wrong in some way.
Today, was incredibly boring. Work was the same old. I work with phone systems and am In charge of managing our telecommunications. I've always thought of myself as a good communicator and yet I find myself realizing that everyone communicates differently.
Man that's annoying. My Fiance is going to school for communication, and at fist I thought it was funny and teased her a little. Yet, now I see how important the art of effective communication can be when you take away all the rules you have learned.
In my job I work with people from all over the world, and trying to have conversations with them is someone difficult because of the nature of language. Some things are universal, like tone of voice.
Raised voice often means negativity. However, most of the people I work with have no real concept of personal space. They will reach into your pocket and grab something for you, or they will stand right next to you, or hold your arm in a way that would by American standards be inapropriate.
If all your life you grew up and thought that the word "apple" meant "F*** Off." Then how would you view a sign that said "Apples 50 cents" or what would you think in a grocery store.
Then, we come full circle back to the point. Being able to communicate on a level of understanding is so incredibly hard when the people you communicate with don't speak the same language.
I spent a better portion of today trying to understand how I had upset someone and offended them. After I learned, I felt terrible.
Lets just say that in Albanian, "Help Me Push My Car." Does not mean the same thing in English as it does in Albanian.
For those of you who don't understand. Apple.
-steve
Labels: Pre 2013
03 July, 2008 17:56
*giggles* oooh baby.
i'm sorry this was difficult....but I'm very proud of you. welcome to my world, honey-babe.
*hug*. i miss you. top